You Can’t Escape Your Final Destination

 

There is only one destination that we will all ultimately end up at.

No one can escape that fact.

That said, so many of us end up living a life of regret – spending our lives looking over our shoulders in fear of losing something that we will ultimately surrender upon death anyways.

Many of us spend our lives blindly following rules, ideas or norms that were put it front of us by others even though they never really resonated with us.

Many of us spend our time on this planet defending our precious little ego – getting upset whenever that ego is threatened.

That’s a shame simply because it doesn’t have to be that way!

Life is the best video game we could ever play.  And just like the greatest video game, it’s set up to have challenges to make it fun to play.

I remember when I’d get the cheat code for invincibility in a Nintendo game and then I’d breeze right through it.  Well guess what, the game became pretty fucking boring once I had that code!

Life has challenges and rewards worthy of our greatest efforts. So game on!

Stop taking things so seriously and getting so stressed out.  So you had a fight with your boss at work? Okay.  So you and your spouse are arguing about something? Okay.  Your dog got run over by car?  I know – it sucks.  But remember, it’s ALL part of the ultimate video game and you have to treat it like that.

You will go through challenges and setbacks but that is how the video game is set up – those who win will keep playing and push through challenges (while expecting them to occur) until they ultimately win!

DAILY ACTION:  Constantly remind yourself that you are an avatar in the greatest video game ever – expect challenges along the way, know anything worthwhile is never easy… and have an absolute blast playing the game! 

Trusting That You Will Get What You Desire… Just Like When You Order Something On Amazon

Amazon has to be one of the most influential, disruptive and convenient businesses to be birthed over the past decade.

It makes ordering something take under 10 seconds and is mind boggling how it’s changed & disrupted the way we buy things.

I, personally, tend to get multiple Amazon notifications on my phone and email every day.

“Your shipment of Quest Smores Protein Bars is on it’s way.  It will be delivered on Tuesday by 8pm.”

I’m sure you can relate.  I bet you also get multiple pings from Amazon that something is on its way.

But what does Amazon have to do with you achieving the life you want?

Well, let me ask you a question.

Do you ever question if your package of toilet paper, laundry detergent, headphones or batteries that you ordered will actually come?

Do you ever sit around anxiously wanting to know if you’ll actually receive what you’ve asked for?

“I wonder if Amazon is gonna deliver my salad chopper.  What if they don’t ship it?  What if it doesn’t end up coming?  What if they lost my order?”

No.

I can answer that one for you.  The answer is you don’t.

You trust that once you hit “Buy Now” & you get that confirmation email, your package of Peeps will arrive.

So, what does this have to do with living the Optimized You?

Well, living the Optimized You means having faith in the process.

It means trusting that if you just keep moving forward – even when you don’t want to – with what feels right and stay centered in the present moment, things will eventually turn out how they are supposed to – and all for the better.

It’s staying positive, not letting self-doubt get you down and make you give up… and ultimately having faith that your ‘package’ of living an optimized life will, in fact, arrive.

But like your Amazon package, you need to immediately start having some faith that things will work out okay — just as they always have before.

DAILY ACTION:  Start to believe that what you wish for is on it’s way.  Don’t question it.  Don’t put a timeline to it.  Just have faith that it will occur – or something even better that you’re not thinking of quite yet will occur instead.  Trust that everything is happening FOR you and not TO you on your journey.  And then take action each day on what feels right while focusing on your daily process goals.  They may change as you go – that’s okay.  Just go with it and stay flexible.

Stop Chasing In Order To Get What You Want

Treat what you want like a butterfly.  You chase it and it will fly away from you.  You stop giving it so much attention and it will fly up to you and sit on your shoulder.

Why is it that the super hot girl in high school always went for the guy who paid her no attention… while the guy who constantly bought her flowers, built a shrine in his bedroom and wrote her poems every day never got a shot with her?

Well, other than the fact that the shrine was probably a tad bit overboard, the real reason why he never landed his dream girl is the same reason why many of us never achieve our goals – “the more we chase something, the faster it moves away from us

I remember taking a sales training course early on in my career and they taught us about treating sales as a pendulum.  And it’s essentially the same concept – the more you push at someone, the more they are turned off and view you as the pestering ‘salesman’.

But when you pull away a bit and act as if you don’t “need” the business, the more they come running after you and want to work with you.

I remember it feeling odd when trying it… but being surprised by how well it worked.

Whenever I would do the traditional salesman dance and press the customer on why they should buy my product, go over all the features and benefits and do the typical dog and pony show, they would get defensive and immediately feel like they were being sold something.

But when I took the approach of ‘look, maybe this isn’t something you should do…’ they would immediately tell me “no, no, no — it’s not that at all.  This definitely is something I want to do – I just need to understand more about XYZ first before I buy”.

So, moral of the story, if you really want something, treat it like a butterfly.  It may sound paradoxical but the more you are chasing it, the more it eludes you.  But if you turn your attention to other things, it’ll come and sit on your shoulder.

DAILY ACTION:  Think of yourself as a magnet and begin to let things flow TO you instead of you chasing after them.