Choosing To Be Negative Is Always The Wrong Choice

How many people do you know that do nothing but complain?

Hell, you may be one of them without even knowing you’re doing it!

Some people simply have a negative outlook on life… or maybe they’re just always expecting bad things to happen. These are the ones who say “well, with my luck…” or “must be nice for so and so but that would never happen to me”…

Another form of negativity is trying to think up all the bad shit that could happen in all facets of your life… so that you’re somehow more prepared for it if it does.

Pretty sweet way to live your life!

Always remember that no amount of feeling bad or being negative will ever create a good result.

Never.

I’ve struggled with my fair share of negative thoughts throughout the years. Even outwardly high-achievers can fixate on the 1% that they feel is “wrong” with their life instead of focusing on the 99% that’s great.

I was the type that always would obsess over what was going to go wrong in business matters so that I could somehow prepare for it. And I remember my attorney once said to me on a real estate deal that no matter the million things you think of that could go wrong that you try and prevent from happening, chances are 99.9% of the time, they’ll never happen… and if something bad does happen, it will be something that wasn’t even on your radar.

That stuck with me.

All these negative thoughts and planning for every variation of “what if” events was basically all for naught and did nothing but create a ton of unnecessary stress.

I’ve since learned that it takes the same level of effort to be positive as it takes to be negative!

And that’s what those that live the Optimized You follow.

We only have so much bandwidth between our ears. So they realize that it makes absolutely no sense to ever expect anything negative out of life.

Play that out. Even if you’re positive about the outcome of an event and the outcome ends up not being what you were hoping for, you STILL were better off being positive along the way instead of negative!

That doesn’t mean you should be irresponsible and not have a Plan B if your Plan A doesn’t work out… but having a Plan B in place and then moving forward with Plan A with positivity is much different than obsessing over every detail that might make your Plan A fail… and what if your Plan B doesn’t work either – we should probably put together a Plan C through Plan ZZ today as well!

What a ton of wasted mental energy.  You will never, ever be able to think of all the bad things that ‘could’ happen.

One strategy those that live the Optimized You follow is to never, ever believe a prediction about the future that you tell yourself that doesn’t empower you.

I know for myself, keeping that top of consciousness allows me to snap out of negative thought patterns when they arise (because they will) – and go back to expecting positive outcomes, thinking positive thoughts and making positive comments.

And once you start eliminating negativity from your life, magical things seem to start happening.

You’re happier at home, at work, with your kids, etc… and good shit just seems to start flowing into your life.

Give it a whirl.

DAIlY ACTION: Always choose to be positive in your thoughts, actions and predictions about the future. It never pays to be anything else.

Stop Chasing In Order To Get What You Want

Treat what you want like a butterfly.  You chase it and it will fly away from you.  You stop giving it so much attention and it will fly up to you and sit on your shoulder.

Why is it that the super hot girl in high school always went for the guy who paid her no attention… while the guy who constantly bought her flowers, built a shrine in his bedroom and wrote her poems every day never got a shot with her?

Well, other than the fact that the shrine was probably a tad bit overboard, the real reason why he never landed his dream girl is the same reason why many of us never achieve our goals – “the more we chase something, the faster it moves away from us

I remember taking a sales training course early on in my career and they taught us about treating sales as a pendulum.  And it’s essentially the same concept – the more you push at someone, the more they are turned off and view you as the pestering ‘salesman’.

But when you pull away a bit and act as if you don’t “need” the business, the more they come running after you and want to work with you.

I remember it feeling odd when trying it… but being surprised by how well it worked.

Whenever I would do the traditional salesman dance and press the customer on why they should buy my product, go over all the features and benefits and do the typical dog and pony show, they would get defensive and immediately feel like they were being sold something.

But when I took the approach of ‘look, maybe this isn’t something you should do…’ they would immediately tell me “no, no, no — it’s not that at all.  This definitely is something I want to do – I just need to understand more about XYZ first before I buy”.

So, moral of the story, if you really want something, treat it like a butterfly.  It may sound paradoxical but the more you are chasing it, the more it eludes you.  But if you turn your attention to other things, it’ll come and sit on your shoulder.

DAILY ACTION:  Think of yourself as a magnet and begin to let things flow TO you instead of you chasing after them.